Winter is here and we are fast approaching the shortest day of the Year – Winter Solstice which usually occurs on the 21st June. If you are anything like me and need more hours in the day, if it is sunny outside, it at least feels like I have more hours in the day.
Well I have had a rather interesting last couple of weeks. I went and spoke with my son’s teacher at school as he is finding it hard to stay focused, maintain concentration and his behaviour at home is rather questionable. It is at the point now that it is becoming concerning.
She said that she has noticed his ‘almost controllable actions’ in the classroom. She also said that he is doing them without even noticing, he is not hyperactive and not naughty it’s just because he can’t stop and without putting a name on it (as it is not her profession) that she said he could have a form of ADD.
My heart sunk! Millions of kids suffer with this disorder but not us. I am a part of The Trusted Trolley, I’m doing the right thing! I knew there was something wrong but what to do now?
I don’t like the term or diagnosis of ADD but after re-researching it I can get why there is a list of symptoms that categorises ADD and ADHD. Although in saying that there is many different contributing factors.
My son has never really liked school work as such (but can draw for hours) and I have always fought with him to do his homework. We eat well at home and I always make educated choices about the food he eats as a whole, but he is falling behind at school (Year 3) and now dislikes going to school. I have been told by many people that it is a boy thing and not to worry.
I have my reasons why I choose the path to avoid additives which in some cases directly affects my children’s unruly behaviour, the association with unknown health issues later on in life and first hand experiences with other children, but when issues affect your child and the way they learn it makes you think outside the square and pay extra special attention to it.
So where do you start? Well I know that certain foods affects his bad behaviour so we have that part of it pretty sorted but his uncontrollable urges to fidget, sit still, to be able to write more than a few words at the time leaves me hanging.
The teachers has said that there are many other things to consider like: Is he getting enough sleep and can he see OK? So I have now got a appointment to see a Paediatrician I want to investigate his sleeping pattern as I don’t think he does sleep well. He tosses and turns, grinds his teeth and suckles all night long. His lack of sleep could be affecting him at school.
In the mean time (as the next available Paediatrician is ten weeks away) I have made an optometrist appointment for him, just to make sure there is no issue there.
And Nyssa (one of TTT team) has given me some Do Terra ‘In Tune’ Essential Oil (Enhances and sustains focus, supports efforts of those who have difficulty paying attention and staying on task, and promotes healthy thought processes). Today is day two, so it will be really interesting to see if the teachers recognises any difference with him. I even put some on this morning and so far I have been at the Computer and been able to stay focused myself. I have actually got more done this morning than the past previous days lol.
I am also going to be doing some more research into the more natural foods which I could give him or those that I should avoid.
My husband and I have also sat down and spoken to our little boy. We told him that we have spoken to his teacher and we think something is not right and we want to help him. We asked him if we can get some help to make it easier for him to be able to learn easier at school, would he like that and he just gave us a huge smile and said “Yes please, I want to be able to read mum”. Since that day his attitude has even changed a little towards school and he even wants to try!
If it turns out that these issues are all OK, then that is great. It can be ticked off the list and at least I know I have done the best I can and as parents, we all feel the same. We all know our children best and will do what we think is the best for them.
On the other hand, we are very lucky that our son is a lovely boy with great manners, empathy and compassion and has great friendships at school. He just drives me nuts at home, fighting with his brother, but everyone says that that is normal too.
Time will tell….
If you have a child or know a child who suffers with lack of attention and focus then it may be worthwhile looking into additives and which ones you can easily avoid. Check out our website for more Additive Information and see which additives have known links to hyperactivity.